Knocked Up Abroad Stories about multicultural parenting Mon, 21 Sep 2020 18:48:18 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Knocked Up Abroad 32 32 The Lovely Haze of Baby Days Mon, 21 Sep 2020 17:54:25 +0000 Lindsay Madsen, mother of four living in Denmark, has written the perfect book for new mothers everywhere.

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Lindsay Kellar-Madsen discovered inspiration and ideas amidst diapers, laundry, and sleepless nights. There’s something about rocking your baby in the wee hours of the night that gets your brain cells tingling. 

In Lindsay’s case, she wanted to share hope and support for fellow moms who are in the thick fog of  exhaustion that comes with those early baby days.

As the conditions surrounding the current pandemic continue, isolation is making maternal struggles with loneliness, anxiety, and depression an even bigger battle. My hope is this book will remind us that we are not alone in motherhood.’

Lindsay and her family live in Denmark and her first book is a board book slated for publication pending a successful Kickstarter campaign. 

‘This is a new kind of board book, featuring beautiful illustrations depicting everyday moments moms share with their babies with a witty, but candid text for the reader, mama! It gives little ones an early introduction to language through rhyme, and for mothers is a book of solidarity, to help them get through the tough days and the sleepless nights.’

Using humor and relatable moments, Lindsay and her illustrator have tried to capture the reality of motherhood in a fun and engaging way.

These are moments all moms will recognize and relate to and seasoned moms will vividly remember.

This last year on maternity leave with my twin girls was especially overwhelming. At the hardest, most exhausting point, I had an idea. What if there was a creative way I could put my message of support, somewhere mothers might hear it? What if they might feel less lonely or anxious, if they could sense their sense of community? This board book is how I hope to do that.

I partnered with a Danish artist, Mie Frey Damgaard, to bring the vision of this book to life. She is also a mother with small children so she understood the sense of solidarity I was looking to integrate into this story, and her sweet and clever illustrations have really captured the magic and chaos of motherhood. 

Click here to head to her campaign and pre-order the board book as a baby shower gift for a woman you love dearly who is in that loving haze of baby days.

Click here to place your order for the book.

You can also order customized artwork for your baby’s room, which is absolutely darling! 

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Surprise! School is Closed. Homeschooling Resources for Working Parents Fri, 13 Mar 2020 09:01:51 +0000 Surprise! School is closed due to COVID-19 and you need to homeschool. Here are some quick resources to help you figure it all out.

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School is closed. SURPRISE! It’s time to homeschool.

COVI-19 is affecting us in all types of new ways.

With social distancing measures in place and more being taken to #flattenthecurve so we don’t all tax the healthcare system at once, you may find yourself having to homeschool your kids.

Most parents have no experience homeschooling and possibly, no desire to do so.

However, your kids will start climbing the walls if you think you can put them in front of an iPad or Netflix all day long.

While emergency homeschooling isn’t ideal, having some daily structure in place is important.

Fortunately, there are TONS of homeschooling resources available already online.

Most of the available resources are in English but there are a few I posted below that are bilingual. 

A Few Tips

  • You’re not going to be able to work your typical full-time work day schedule at home AND homeschool your kids. You still need to get work done, but you may need to shift your hours before the kids wake up and after they go to bed.
    • Welcome to a typical work day working from home with kids! #beflexible
  • Set a daily schedule that everyone can follow that allows for the kids to have some formal study, outside play, cleaning/chores, and for you to get work done.
  • If you have neighbors with kids of similar ages, try to get a homeschool collective going, or at least rotate playgroup responsibility to share the load.
  • When in doubt, emphasize play more than learning. There’s no test at the end of this and kids learn through play. You don’t need your kids to become little Einsteins this week. Focus on #surviving.

You might need to get creative and be a bit flexible, but here are some homeschooling resources for you to consider.

Homeschooling Resources



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Travel to Dubai with Kids Wed, 26 Feb 2020 10:34:19 +0000 Discover tons of adventures and places to explore when you travel to Dubai with your kids with Neha Singh's travel tips and insider advice.

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Discover tons of adventures and places to explore when you travel to Dubai with your kids with Neha Singh’s travel tips and insider advice.

Guest post by Neha Singh

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Desert safari in Dubai: Photo courtesy of Flickr

Dubai is a fascinating city that is filled with breathtaking architecture, luxurious shopping malls, interesting culture, and vast deserts. 

Over the years, Dubai has put itself on the global map by boasting of various attractions and activities for people of all age groups. Be it grandparents, parents, or children, Dubai has something to offer to everyone.

Thousands of visitors are traveling to this glamorous city every year. If you are planning a vacation to Dubai with kids, then this article is a perfect read for you.

Tips for your trip to Dubai with kids

Dubai is a very kid-friendly place.

The following tips will come in handy when you are traveling to Dubai with kids.

  • October to March is the best period to visit Dubai
  • The locals are very warm and welcoming, especially towards children, in Dubai
  • The beaches in Dubai are extremely clean and safe where kids can indulge in a lot of activities
  • Dubai is a hot city so make sure your kids are well hydrated
  • Carry a good amount of sunscreen to protect them from sunburns 
  • Deserts can get a little cold in the evening, so it is advisable to pack a light jacket
  • Many medicines can be purchased over the counter without a prescription, but it is advisable to carry necessary medications for the kids 
  • Dressing modestly in Dubai is good for adults though it is okay for kids to wear what they please
  • Carry games, puzzles, and toys to keep them engaged while traveling 
  • It is highly recommended to carry snacks and other food for munching if they tend to get hungry
  • Carry baby wipes and tissues as they may come in handy at all times
  • Dubai has good transport facilities. Buses, metros, taxis trams, etc. are very children-friendly
  • Most of the tourist attractions have stroller access for infants
  • Dubai has plenty of theme parks, water parks, and amusement parks, so there are innumerable options to keep the kids entertained

What should you see or do while you’re in Dubai?

Dubai Dolphinarium: A visit to the Dubai Dolphinarium is a complete family experience. It is home to 6 bottle-nose dolphins, seals, and more than 20 species of parrots. 

Experience the dolphin and seal show in which these delightful and intelligent creatures display their excellent skills and talent. Watch them dance, play, juggle, and dive, their frolics are surely going to bring a big smile on your faces. You can also swim and interact with the friendly dolphins. 

Desert Safari: No trip to Dubai is complete without a visit to the famous deserts of the city. Drive across the golden dunes in a 4×4 vehicle. Enjoy thrilling activities such as dune bashing, sandboarding, and quad biking. The entire family will enjoy these activities. 

After that retire to the Bedouin camps where you can ride a camel, watch the sunset, click pictures in traditional Arabic clothes, and women can get henna tattooing done on their hands. 

Enjoy some cultural performances such as Tanura Dance Show, Belly Dancing, and Fire Show. Relish a delicious BBQ dinner which consists of both local and international cuisine. This is certainly an unforgettable experience for you and your family.

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IMG Worlds of Adventure: Photo courtesy of Flickr

IMG Worlds of Adventure: One of the most entertaining amusement parks in the world, IMG Worlds of Adventure brings you face to face with all your favorite characters from Marvel Comics and Cartoon Network. 

Get up close and personal with your favorite superheroes such as Spiderman, Superman, Thor, Iron Man and Hulk at the Marvel Zone. Enjoy exciting rides based on them. In the Cartoon Network Zone, you encounter The Powerpuff Girls and Ben 10. Explore the Lost Valley Zone, where you can experience rides based on the gigantic dinosaurs. Some of the popular rides are The Velociraptor, Dino Carousel, and Forbidden Territory. 

Aquaventure Waterpark: One of the best waterparks in Dubai, Aquaventure Waterpark is located at the iconic Hotel Atlantis, the Palm. It is home to more than 30 exciting rides and waterslides. Battle with the King of the Sea at the Tower of Poseidon or enjoy the thrilling twisted water tunnel Anaconda. 

They also have a private beach and Dubai’s longest river, the Lazy River. All you animal lovers can head to The Lost Chambers Aquarium to get a sneak-peek into the exotic marine life. It houses more than 65,000 marine life and you can watch sharks, stingrays, dolphins, and an array of fishes. 

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Dubai Creek: Photo courtesy of Flickr

Ski Dubai: Do you want some respite from the sweltering heat of Dubai? A visit to Ski Dubai is the best way to do that. It is an indoor ski resort right in the middle of the city. 

The park maintains a temperature of around -4C degrees throughout the year. It boasts of a plethora of activities such as tobogganing, skiing, and snowboarding. There is an ice cave and a high mountain with different levels of slope. There is a chair lift and loads of other interesting snow activities. The cherry on the cake is the March of the Penguins where you get to witness these delightful creatures performing antics that are sure to leave you amazed.

Kidzania: Kidzania Dubai is surely an offbeat experience for kids as it mixes fun and learning. It is an indoor activity center that combines education and entertainment. Your kids can role-play adult professions such as doctors, teachers, policemen, firefighters, journalists, and the likes.

Kidzania is built like a tiny city where the streets are dotted with restaurants, offices, hospitals, fire stations, and a bank. It also allows children to imagine what their dream career may be like.

There are more than 80 activities for the kids to explore and they are paid in Kidzania currency which they can use at the different shops. It is an excellent way for children to experience adult life.

Dubai Creek: To get a feel of old Dubai, ride an Abra, which is the traditional wooden boat, across this saltwater creek for just AED 1. Take in the sights on both sides of the creek. Also, check out the colorful souks, which are the traditional markets of Dubai, on both sides of the creek.

You can pick up a lot of souvenirs such as spices, herbs, footwear, essential oils, teas, and other trinkets. Alternatively, you can book a Dhow Dinner Cruise on the creek. Dhows are wooden boats that are refurbished with all the latest amenities. Set sail on this two-hour cruise and enjoy the stunning views all around you.

Enjoy some Arabian hospitality through cultural performances and end your evening with a delectable buffet dinner.

Places to Eat

There are plenty of your usual global restaurant chains such as KFC, Pizza Hut, Burger King, Starbucks, and subway for kids who are fussy eaters.

Most of the hotels also offer a kid-friendly menu.

Some other options are Rainforest Cafe, The Noodle House, Black Tap restaurant, The Social House, Cafe Ceramique, Sumo Sushi & Bento, Bookmunch, Markette, The Lime Tree Cafe and Kitchen, Wagamama, Chili’s, Eggspectation, and 77 Veggieboutique to name a few. These restaurants have great food options for kids.

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Burj Khalifa: Photo courtesy of Pixabay

Layover with kids in Dubai

If you have a layover in Dubai for around 10-12 hours then there are many attractions to keep you busy the whole time.

Visit Burj Khalifa, Dubai Mall, and Dubai Fountain: Head over to the Observation Deck of the stunning Burj Khalifa for a birds-eye view of the entire city. The tallest building in the world will surely take your breath away and is a must in your Dubai itinerary. 

After that, you can visit the famous Dubai Mall which is one of the largest shopping malls in the world. Home to over 1200 stores, this mall is heaven for shoppers. 

It also has plenty of restaurants, a movie theatre and a vast array of entertainment options such as an ice rink, Dubai Aquarium and Underwater Zoo, a human waterfall, and the beautifully choreographed Dubai Fountain. 

All these attractions are located in one place, so you don’t have to waste your time in commute. You can easily spend an entire day here.

Other attractions that you can visit are the Palm Islands, Hotel Burj Al Arab, Wild Wadi Waterpark, Legoland, Dubai Miracle Garden, and the Al Bastakiya Quarter. You can pick and choose the attractions based on the time available.

In summary…

Dubai offers diverse forms of entertainment options for kids. Be it games, rides, beaches, adventure sports, or learning, there is no dearth of activities here. 

With a little bit of planning and organizing, you can have a memorable vacation with your kids in Dubai.

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What Runaway Horses Taught Me About Fear and Control Fri, 07 Feb 2020 09:37:55 +0000 When twenty horses ran out of control in my backyard, I made a split-second decision to do something which taught me a lot about fear and control.

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I heard them before I saw them.

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Forty hooves pounded the grass outside and a huddled mass of colors—horses clothed in shining browns, tans, blacks, and whites—raced and paused directly outside of my home office window. The sweet, well-tended golf course grass was too good to pass up.

The unruly group paused on Hole 8 as two women from the stable slowly approached them, shaking a bucket of food, making a distinct noise hoping to draw some of the loose horses to them.

My mind raced to piece together the puzzle I saw before me. Twenty horses? Loose? No reins? No saddles? No riders? What was going on?

I pulled on my jacket and headed to the golf course. If there were twenty-some-odd horses loose, I knew they would need as many people as possible to help get the horses under control.

The horses had relocated across to the other side of the golf course by the time I arrived.

I walked beside a woman who was also walking in the same direction. Erroneously, I thought she was with the stables nearby who had lost these horses.

“Are you going to help with the horses?” she asked.
“I’m going to try. What happened?”
“I heard they’re from the Skånsta stables,” she added.

To my dismay, she powered off in the other direction on her afternoon walk.

From Skånsta? That was over two kilometers away from where they were now. Quickly, my mental map pulled up.

These loose horses had run freely through quite a few neighborhoods and had crossed a few streets to get to my house from the stables.

You can’t run after a horse

If you’ve never chased down a team of loose horses, you quickly realize that there is no point in running after them.

I was embarking on a humbling exercise in futility and a remarkable display of herd mentality.

I felt incredibly small and weak next to the stallion who was rearing up next to me as a stable worker tried to tie a rope to him.

“Can I help out?” I asked meekly.
“Do you know how to handle horses?” the stable woman replied, not quite sure what to do with me.
“Nope, but I can stand here and hold a rope,” I offered.
“Hmm, let’s find one that doesn’t bite…” she scanned the horses looking for the most docile horse to hand to the newbie.

Doesn’t bite?! Yes, please give me a non-bitey horse, thank you very much.

As someone who has little-to-no experience with horses, the idea of holding a rope (not even true reins because this was not a typical experience) of an animal that was born to run, and had been running for an hour, was daunting.

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Taking responsibility can be terrifying

I was volunteering responsibility to keep this horse calm and under control in a very chaotic, out of control situation.

But first, I needed to remain calm or at least give off the pretense of being calm.

Two police officers were also holding ropes to large horses who were rearing up and resisting control.

One officer shouldered her horse back into line with force. She was calm but forceful.

I took note and kept my hand on the coarse mane running down my horse’s neck. The horse kept turning his large head toward my face.

I didn’t want to get bitten and make the already-tense situation into a medical problem, so I kept my hand on the side of his neck—reassuring us both.

While not knowing the right words to offer to my horse in Swedish (I assumed he understood Swedish), I cooed to him in a sing-song voice and hoped my gentle encouragement made up for the language barrier.

Without enough people to hold every horse, we lined up the roped horses and hoped the other 15 horses would follow, as they generally do.

Following one rogue horse was how these horses got into this mess, and that’s how they’d get home again.

However, the loose horses were more interested in eating the grass on the side of the road than they were in following us, which created a distance between the two groups.

The loose horses would catch up to our group, running at full speed, which would trigger the run response in our horses and spiked my stress levels every time.

Feeling the fear when out of control

I was afraid.

I was afraid my horse would run away, and I’d have to drop the rope.

I was afraid my horse might turn and bite me for trying to control him.

I was afraid of making the situation worse when all I wanted to do was help.

So, I did the only thing within my control. I controlled my breathing, and I talked to my horse.

I told my horse he was so duktig (the best!), and so snäll (nice/pleasant).

In a strange blend of stress and surrealism, we walked the horses back to the stable.

The police officers stopped traffic so we could cross the roads, and additional stable workers/volunteers arrived to guide the horses in.

With my horse safely in his stall, one of the women hugged me in genuine gratitude. I never caught her name, nor her mine—there was too much chaos to exchange pleasantries.

With my good deed done for the day, I walked to pick up my kids from school. We’d be walking home that day.

It was a beautiful and unusual day and we had a lot to discuss on the walk home.

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So, what did this team of runaway horses teach me about fear and control?

A lot of times in my life, I’ve been asked to help out in quite scary situations (much scarier than a bunch of wild horses running around, believe it or not), and I shirked my duty for one reason or another.

“Oh, there’s someone more qualified.”
“What if I mess it up and make things worse?”
“Maybe they’ll sue me if I try to help.”
“I don’t know how to help.”

And other such excuses that I gave myself for not stepping in.

This event taught me that any help whatsoever is appreciated.

You don’t need to be an expert with horses to hold a rope and walk on the road. In almost all emergencies, you, the bystander, need to do your best, and that’s enough.

The experts will take over if A) they ever arrive, and B) if what you’re doing isn’t working. Until then, doing something is better than doing nothing.

Relinquishing control to gain control

I also learned that the best way to gain control of a situation is to relinquish fears and anxieties you have about NOT being in control.

It sounds counterintuitive, but when I focused on the parts that I could control, I stopped worrying about what MIGHT happen, and that allowed me to calm down and slightly enjoy the experience.

“You were very brave to step in and help like that,” my mother-in-law said on the phone. Her comment surprised me because I didn’t feel brave when I was in the midst of it all; I only felt the urge to do something to help.

As it happens, I was the only civilian (non-stable worker, non-police officer) to help out with the horses, so I guess there was something unique about my actions that day.

I thought of all of the times when I didn’t step in to help when I could’ve. Maybe this redeemed me in some way.

Perhaps the most surprising element of this incident is that our local newspapers never covered it.

It’s almost as if 20 loose horses running wild through our little town is a normal occurrence or something. Just another perk of living near nature.

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Why Unschedules May Work Best When Traveling with Family Fri, 06 Dec 2019 14:18:09 +0000 Charlotte Davis learned a lot about traveling with little kids during a family road trip to Las Vegas. She shares why unschedules might make traveling easy.

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Traveling with family is always an adventure and we’re off into the great unknown.

The views out the window mesmerize me, and I’m dreaming of dipping my feet in the ocean off Oregon’s pebbled coast.

Then, my daydreams are interrupted by the typical sounds of family travel.

My niece wakes up crying from a bad dream, her toddler brother following her example, and the drama spreads like wildfire.

The RV isn’t large enough to contain the family in this distressed state and everyone feels it.  

I love my family, and I love traveling with them. I’ve learned a lot during our trip down the west coast.

Hopefully, these tips in advance of your next adventure with your kids will offer smoother sailing.

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Photo by ian dooley on Unsplash

Plan but don’t over plan your family vacation 

Everyone knows you’re supposed to plan before a trip, but what most people don’t understand is that you need to plan way, way more in advance when you travel with kids.

Before we even picked up our RV rental in Las Vegas, my sister had three notebooks full of maps, ideas, and alternate itineraries. I didn’t understand the fuss. Now I do.

My advanced-planning sister wisely used Google Maps to pinpoint important locations, and not just national parks and your intended destinations.

Fast food restaurants almost always have a play area and accessible bathrooms that traveling families need frequently. If you plan to stay in a specific town or campground, look up the nearest convenience and grocery stores.

The thing is, and I’ve learned this the hard way, traveling with small kids demands more than a plan A and B. You need a C, D, and E (for Exit) for unexpected illnesses, tantrums, or bickering grown-ups. Which leads me to the next tip.

Photo by Ashton Bingham on Unsplash
Photo by Ashton Bingham on Unsplash

Pack extra patience and flexibility

There will be surprises. Some things will undoubtedly go wrong. 

No matter how well you plan there may be delays at the airport and extra boredom to fend off.

All that extra planning in the previous step only works if you’re willing to make adjustments on the fly.

Remember to take breaks and allow the kids to stretch their legs with free play time. If your kids are sleeping all day in transit and get restless in the evening, then enjoy the night with them and go stargazing. Tomorrow’s activities may need to be delayed a bit.

Slow Down

The most important tip before traveling with family is to take your time.

Slow travel is the perfect speed for young kids. An hour to you is a day to them. Spend those minutes wisely, and fill as many as possible with little adventures.

Travel slow. Take breaks. Listen to your kids and each other.

Family trips are as much about each other as they are about the views.

A Keen Eye for Lodging

On our cross-country RV trip, we looked up multiple potential hotels, motels, and campgrounds for every potential destination, and they all had a few crucial things in common.

First off, they had to be highly rated for safety.

Secondly, they needed on-site parking suitable for our RV.

Thirdly, they needed to either be very near a major attraction suitable for the whole crew, or the place needed a pool and/or play area.

Traveling families have the simultaneous advantage and disadvantage of numbers.

Cramming everyone in a couple motel rooms can and will become a costly nightmare. If you plan to stay longer than a single night anywhere on your trip, look for cabins, short term home rentals (through services like AirBnB), and even resorts with enough space to spread out, breathe, and run.

Screen time? Maybe it’s ok this time


Often a point of contention, but frankly, when you’re on a long drive, screens may not be your enemy.

Load kid-friendly games – there are plenty of educational options! – and prep some of their favorite films. 

Don’t forget to bring charging cables that fit cigarette lighters and/or USB ports. You will be so, so happy you did.

Travelling with kids can be so much fun while challenging at the same time.

It might not go exactly as you plan them, but you will surely create a memorable vacation for your family.

About Charlotte Davis

Charlotte Davis is a thirty-something travel blogger who writes about lifestyle, travel, beauty, food and more. She is on a mission to spread optimism by sharing bits of her travel adventures.

Charlotte enjoys traveling with her nephews and nieces. She seeks to inspire families to choose experiences over possessions by partaking her stories in exploring the world with kids and enjoy every minute of the journey. 

You can check out her other blogs here

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Leave the Kids Behind and Divorce-Proof Your Marriage with a Couple’s Getaway Fri, 11 Oct 2019 14:11:26 +0000 Leave the kids behind if you want to divorce-proof your marriage. I'm not an expert but I know that blissful marriages require routine communication.

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All photos taken by Lisa and Jonathan Ferland

We hopped in the cab at 5 am and giggled like high school seniors skipping school. Our kids were tucked snugly in their beds. My in-laws gave us a yawn and sleepy wave as we passed the childcare baton to them for the week.

We were giddy.

Eight days of traveling as two independent adults felt like an eternity. The excitement of the unknown coursed through us.

Would we run out of things to discuss? How many books would we finish? Would we be bored lounging on gorgeous for a few days? I was excited to find out.

The plane ride to Croatia was eventless, as it usually is when you’re traveling without kids. We drank coffee, read our books, and stared out the window at the blue-green coastline below.

The airport restroom line was long, but I didn’t have a wiggly five-year-old to manage. It was quite dull traveling without kids, which also made it so exciting and novel.

We finally had time to focus on other things—all of those thoughts we had stopped thinking because we were too busy managing little people’s lives 24/7 to give our own inner thoughts much attention.

After ten years of marriage, we earned this trip. 

We wanted to unplug, relax, and reconnect.

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Most common causes of divorce

According to this HuffPost article, common sense, and like a bazillion other articles, the most common causes of divorce are:

  • loss of individual identity
  • forgetting and neglecting that you are a couple
  • not having a shared vision of success
  • disappearing intimacy
  • unmet expectations, and of course
  • financial issues.

The discord and disharmony in any relationship happen over time, as if unwinding a ball of yarn. Without regular touchpoints, check-ins, and “keep it real” conversations, you risk heading off in different directions away from one another.

If you want to divorce-proof your marriage, you need to reconnect with each other regularly. Doing this reconnection away from your kids is of utmost importance. 

Finding someone to watch the kids

We love our kids dearly—they mean everything to us—but by focusing our energy on their happiness, we can forget our own and our partner’s.

My husband is the only person to ask how my day is going—my kids don’t care.

It would make sense that we would invest as much (if not more) in our relationship together than we do our relationships with our kids.

Living far from family means that we don’t have a TON of support.

We have great support from neighbors, and we appreciate the afternoon babysitting here and there, but without family living nearby, it feels too burdensome to ask neighbors to watch our kids for an entire week.

We planned our 10th-anniversary getaway for at least a year. We needed to line up babysitters, plan the trip, and save our kronor. If you think you don’t have the money for date nights, you haven’t researched how expensive divorce is.

We’ve seen a lot of our friends divorce over the past few years and it’s something we’d like to avoid ourselves.

Divorce is costly, disruptive, and ugly—and that’s if you have an amicable divorce.

Investing in quality time together as a couple together quickly became non-negotiable for us.


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Find the right place to reconnect

All of our planning paid off when our plane touched down in Split, Croatia. The stress fell off my shoulders with every step into the hot August sun out of the airport.

Split, Croatia is crowded, and while beautiful, it wasn’t our final destination—we were destined for the furthest island off Split’s coast, Vis.

We found two open spaces on the back of a ferry and watched the mountainous coast of Split disappear on the horizon; the wind whipping my hair out of my pulled back ponytail.

The deep blue water glittered in the sunlight, and tourists around us started shedding clothing to sunbathe on the deck.

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Vis, Croatia

As the ferry pulled into the Vis harbor, I couldn’t wait to explore our surroundings. The local pizza restaurant in Vis (the port city) had some of the best pizza I’ve ever had in my life, hands down. The views were amazing, and the entire island felt calm.

We embrace slow travel—traveling without a set agenda or plans—which is the only approach for Vis.

If you’re looking for relaxing on a beach, reading books nonstop, and swimming/snorkeling in crystal clear water, then Vis is for you. It’s an old island with ancient history—settled first by Dionysus in 397 BC, the island changed hands numerous times.

In 46 BC, the island was taken over by the Romans and prospered under their rule. The island produced remarkable wines and stones for Rome. The beaches of Vis were all human-made—carved during the quarrying of the stones for Roman architecture.

Much of Vis remains undeveloped and unspoiled countryside dominated by vineyards because the island was a naval base during the World War years and only opened to the public in 1991 when Croatia gained independence.

A wild adventure

The island feels a bit wild and dangerous. The “fall off a cliff” type of danger as the mountainous island is covered in switchback roads with sheer drop-offs and no guardrails.

We rented an old ’97 jeep-type deathtrap that had no transmission left. The clutch felt gummy under my foot, and every gear change was a full-on bicep and calf workout.

One of the roads had stone pillars that looked like shark’s teeth protruding around the cliff meant to keep cars from pitching off the side but looked more like a monster baring its teeth in warning.

“Don’t hit the shark’s teeth!” Jon said as we rattled around the mountaintop on the way back to our rental apartment.

Nothing like a bit of adrenaline-pumping driving through the mountains to bond you closer together, right?

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Famous Stiniva Beach and its treacherous cliffs

Create the space for “keep it real” conversations

If you’ve never had a “keep it real” conversation, tonight’s the night.

The essentials for this type of dialogue is to create a quiet space where you won’t be interrupted by anything—kids, phones, TV.

At the beginning of the conversation, you acknowledge that you’ll “keep it real” and confess your deepest concerns, fears, and worries with the knowledge that the truth, in its rawest form, may hurt the other person.

Generally, we have these conversations when one of us is carrying something that we feel is turning ugly inside us.

Maybe it was a conversation we had earlier in the day or a misunderstanding.

Perhaps it was an action not taken or something that felt insignificant at the moment but grew over time the more we processed what happened.

On our vacation, we had a lot of these “keep it real” conversations.

The beauty of having these conversations on vacation, instead of in your kitchen, is that vacations are soothing and relaxing.

The conversations aren’t as hard when you’re standing in crystal blue water, relaxing in the sun.

Reconnect through sharing what’s always been unsaid 

We explored everything in those ten days. We had plenty of downtime. Plenty of quiet and no distractions.

There was no judgment, no hard feelings, just honest talk.

What would happen should one of us die. What would happen if both of us died? What were our best memories from the past ten years? What did we want to accomplish in the next ten years?

We played the “what if…?” game aloud and placed all the cards on the table. At the end, we acknowledged and appreciated each other just a bit more than we had before.

We both needed to verbalize the essential contributions we both make —paid and unpaid—to the stable functioning of our family.

At the end of the vacation, we were completely relaxed, happy, and recommitted to one another.

A lot has changed in the past ten years, and we are different people than we were when we married. Our experiences have shaped us, and for the pieces of our family puzzle to continue to fit, we needed this time and space to work it out.

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Vis was our heaven on earth—our place to reconnect. But for you, it’ll be somewhere else. Somewhere special for the two of you to call your own. 

Whether you find a remote island, a cabin in the mountains, or just a hotel down the street, taking the time to reconnect without your kids is essential.


Advice from someone married 40+ years—my dad

I called my dad when we got home and gushed about how relaxing and wonderful the experience was.

“You should probably do it at least once a year,” he suggested. “If you’re doing weekend trips try to get away at least four times a year. Bigger trips at least once a year.”

Once a year?! His suggestion shocked me. We planned this big trip because we celebrated ten years together and it was our anniversary gift to each other.

Then again, divorce is really, really expensive for years upon years, so maybe doubling down on investing in my marriage isn’t such a bad idea after all.

Do you schedule time to reconnect and divorce-proof your marriage?

Expat coach and intercultural specialist, Sundae Bean, suggests scheduling dates on your calendar as something that will motivate you to follow through like, “Divorce prevention.” Maybe you’ll take it more seriously if the consequences of not following through are super clear.

Someone very wise but unknown said:

The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes.

Wishing you the best.

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Indoor Skydiving—Our Family Bucket List Activity Tue, 18 Jun 2019 08:49:46 +0000 Take the whole family indoor skydiving and see what happens when you and your kids overcome their fears.

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I had a fleeting thought, “What if doing all of these fun activities is ‘spoiling’ my children for when they grow up,” and instantly dismissed it.

Nothing in this life is guaranteed so let’s do the most we can whenever we can.

“We’re never going to go skydiving! You promised we would months ago!”

My son was right. I had promised them months ago, six months ago, in fact, that we would all go indoor skydiving.

But house repairs, car repairs, and dog surgeries ate into our disposable income budget and indoor skydiving took a necessary backseat. 

Life often dictates that we do the boring-but-necessary things first while the fun-and-expensive activities get pushed off to the side.

We kept doing that for months and months until we realize that that was all we were doing. Six months flew by in a flurry and the really exciting Christmas present remained unredeemed.

“Alright. I’m booking it right now,” I said and pulled out my phone and punched in my credit card numbers. 


A bucket list addition

I’ve been editing the website Slow Travel Stockholm for a few months now and recently did a round-up post on Bucket List Adventures in Stockholm.  

Indoor skydiving by BodyFlight looked like a lot of fun so I added that to my family’s personal bucket list.

Jon and I have been real skydiving in our more reckless pre-parenting youth, so I thought I knew what we were getting ourselves into.


Indoor skydiving and skydiving have very little in common aside from the fact that you shape your body like a banana and you wear a skintight jumpsuit and other protective gear.

Indoor skydiving is like wind surfing in a tube with walls and plane skydiving is like plummeting to your death.

Both experiences are loud and exhilarating but very little can compare to voluntarily throwing yourself out of a perfectly good airplane.

Indoor skydiving was the perfect activity for our family, more accessible, and more affordable than jumping out of an airplane.

Indoor skydiving requires balance

When you step into the indoor skydiving tunnel, you are stepping into a wind tunnel that’s whipping air around you at around 195 km/h (120 mph or 55 m/s). 

You fall into the wind tunnel and fortunately, there is an instructor there to keep you from bouncing into the walls. It’s incredible to learn that by slowly modifying your arms or legs, you can zoom up, down, and all around.

Our kids (ages 5 and 8) had a bit more trouble than the adults simply because the body control is really hard.

The wind tunnel is really loud so you can’t hear any instructions and have to rely on hand signals from the instructor.

Also, if you smile and a bit of spittle comes out of your mouth, it’ll hit you again going 195 kph, which kind of hurts like a bee sting. Not that I have experience with that or anything…

Feel free to watch a bit of our experience below. The kids went “swimming” in the air while the adults did their best to not bump into the walls.

What’s Involved

We watched a brief six-minute safety and training video and our instructor explained everything to us including the hand signals and what to expect.

We asked them to provide our training in English, which they gladly provided, and he switched back and forth between English and Swedish to make sure everyone understood what was happening.

After the briefing, we all headed down to get suited up and put on flight suits that left very little to the imagination, ear plugs, goggles, and helmets.

I removed ALL of my jewelry including my necklace and rings just in case. They provided a locker upstairs for all of our valuables.

Don’t worry about not being able to take pictures. They have a professional camera there that snaps great moments and a video camera that captures all 60-seconds of your wind tunnel surfing. 


Two Minutes in a Wind Tunnel

One might not think that 60-seconds is “enough” time in a wind tunnel but it feels a lot longer when you’re in there.

The experts make it look easy but it’s ridiculously hard to balance your body without slamming into the walls or floating down to the ground.

The first 60-seconds was instructional and a chance to let you feel what it was like to balance on the wind.

The second 60-seconds is to take a few pro pics and then to fly up with the instructor.

My favorite part was when the instructor grabbed me, the wind speed ramped up, and I could relax and let him control the experience.

He was an expert at making us fly up and down and the result was exhilarating. 

I may have screamed a bit but nobody could hear me, so it was ok. 


The Verdict

We all loved it.

Our daughter (age 5), was the first one in the tunnel and she had a blast. Our son got to wear a Batman flight suit and loved every second playing the super hero.

What we didn’t expect was what happened after the indoor skydiving was over.

Our daughter had a newfound streak of confidence.

As soon as we got home, she hopped on her bike and raced off down the hill—the same hill she had been too scared to bike down because it required constant braking.

We had dinner at a friend’s house and she was climbing all over the swing set, hanging upside down, and jumping from great heights.

Overcoming the fear of indoor skydiving dislodged whatever was blocking her from trying new things.

She learned that she could try things that she thought were scary and survive. In fact, the scary things were kind of fun.

That discovery in itself was worth the trip.


Find an indoor skydiving place near you

Sweden—Stockholm and Göteborg—BodyFlight


France—Paris, Lyon, and Marseille—iFLY

England—Baskingstoke, Milton Keynes, Manchester—iFLY

United States—iFLY has locations all over the country

What’s on your family’s bucket list?

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Day Trip to Tallinn, Estonia from Stockholm Mon, 03 Jun 2019 11:45:41 +0000 Learn why Tallinn, Estonia should be your next day trip from Stockholm.

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All photos by the Ferlands

One day is not nearly enough time to explore all of the hidden alleys and beautiful cafes that Tallinn offers but if you only have one day, I suggest you explore it slow travel style.

Slow Travel encourages us to slacken our pace, re-consider our motivations (and itineraries) and embrace a “less is more”  instead of a “fast is better” ethos. It emboldens us to take pause. To think. To saunter instead of rush and enjoy the details instead of blurring past them. —Lola A. Åkerström

We slow travel Stockholm as the least-stressful way of traveling with kids who often have short attention spans, no understanding of schedules, and short legs that tire easily.

Traveling slowly is our modus operandi and we apply it regardless of where we are in the world.

Visit a 300-year-old operational blacksmith workshop

We discovered this blacksmith’s workshop when our daughter tripped on a cobblestone and fell into the closed door of Old Smithy.

Apparently, the blacksmith thought she knocked on it and he opened the door and welcomed us in. (You never know what doors will open when you wander around Tallinn.)

We spoke with the blacksmith who was getting his fire started and he talked us through his daily routine as he started hammering away at a rod of iron.

After 20 minutes or so, he had melted, hammered, shaped, and twisted the rod of iron into a tiny leaf.

You can book the site for a workshop and try your hand at blacksmithing if you have some time. If not, it was well worth hanging out with a real blacksmith and watching him work.

Kid review: “I felt like we’re getting a good feeling of what life was like back in medieval times.”

“I want to be an astronaut and a blacksmith.”


Climb St Olaf’s Church tower for unbeatable views of Tallinn

We passed St Olaf’s church after leaving the Old Smithy and saw that you could climb the tower for a few Euros. Being the adventurous family we are, we all headed up the spiral stone stairs only to quickly remember why I hate climbing towers.

If you’re scared of heights or have a child who trips over cobblestones, maybe SKIP CLIMBING THE TOWER.

The views from the top were absolutely lovely and unbeatable. The weather was gorgeous and you can walk around the viewing platform to see the entire city.

That said, there are goony tourists at the top taking endless selfies and otherwise blocking the platform which makes it hard to make a quick exit if you start to feel vertigo.

Kid review: “Would we die if we fell from this height?”

“I’m glad I didn’t fall.”

Website: St Olafs Church


Visit Europe’s Oldest Pharmacy

I wouldn’t have told you that an old pharmacy would be cool but it was definitely worth the visit.

Located right off the main city square, the Raeapteek is one of the oldest continuously running pharmacies in all of Europe with a guesstimated opening date in the 1400s.

I think the pharmacy staff are a bit tired of tourists taking their photos and never buying anything, so help them keep their business operational by buying a packet of Kleenex.

There’s a side room full of old bottles, weighing scales, and information about the pharmacy.

The main photo on this blog was taken from inside the pharmacy looking out onto the square.


Fried shrimp starter at Kaks Kokka

The Food

OMG, the FOOD! Ridiculously delicious, amazing, and delectable in all aspects.

Our friends recommended Restoran Ö as one of the top 5 best dinners they’ve ever eaten in their lifetime. 

We didn’t have the type of time that Restoran Ö requires to fully enjoy the dining experience, so we booked a table at their sister restaurant, Kaks Kokka.

Not only was Kaks Kokka incredibly accommodating, but the food was beyond compare.

Our server brought out the softest bread with whipped herb butter that made me want to head to the kitchen and hug the chef. The rest of our lunch was even more delicious.

Our daughter was tired and laid down on the couch to take a much-needed afternoon nap.

Not only was that fine by us (and our server) but our server even asked if she needed a blanket.

Needless to say, families are welcome at Kaks Kokka, which is rare to find in fine dining.

Kid review: “My pasta and chicken is really good.”



Save room for chocolate

As if eating the most delicious lunch wasn’t enough, we headed to an artists’ alley to Chocolate de Pierre for creamy rich ice cream and chocolate cake.

Before the chocolate cake, our kids were too tired to walk, their bellies ached, and they were whiny.

After the chocolate cake, they were giggling and acting silly and ready to explore again. Worth every Euro.

Be sure to wander the handicraft stores around the cafe for more exquisite local art.

Kid review: “Thish chocolate cake ish delishous.”

Address: Pierre Chocolaterie Vene 6, 10123 Tallinn, Estland 

Explore the wall

Due to two very tired children, we didn’t get a chance to explore the entire city and visit all of the towers around the wall.

Tallinn is a UNESCO World Heritage Site and the wall that surrounds the city remains mostly in tact from its original construction in the 1265. You can hop up on the wall (for a small fee) and walk along the perimeter for a bit. Some local vendors have nestled their tables in the eaves of the wall itself and the result is a magical teleportation back in time.

Kid review: “The wall is so cool!” 

Wander around and soak it in

There were tons of street performers, musicians, and artists lining the streets of Tallinn and many more places that we’d love to visit again.

If you have more than a few hours and your kids aren’t tired, you could probably check off a few more activities on your list.

We enjoyed the sunshine, beautiful flower stalls, fountains, and the meandering streets and alleys Tallinn offered us during our short stay.

If you’ve been to Tallinn before, leave a comment and let me know what we missed that we should definitely see on our return visit.


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Why a Doula is a Must for International Births Wed, 08 May 2019 12:02:07 +0000 Having moved from the UK to The Netherlands age 22 with no job, nowhere to live, and a partner who’d never even visited the place, I figured that moving to Sweden thirteen years later would be easy. Sure, I didn’t speak much of the language, but I could understand some, and yes, I’d miss my […]

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Having moved from the UK to The Netherlands age 22 with no job, nowhere to live, and a partner who’d never even visited the place, I figured that moving to Sweden thirteen years later would be easy.

Sure, I didn’t speak much of the language, but I could understand some, and yes, I’d miss my amazing friends A LOT, but I figured I’d meet other mums at the playground and make friends that way.

Of course, I could do this all over again!

Relocating as a family is hard(er)

I soon realised, however, that moving to a new country at 22 with only myself to worry about was very different than moving somewhere aged 35 with two small children and a baby in tow.

There were no mums in the playground to become coffee buddies with, and I missed being familiar with how things worked.

Doctor’s appointments, vaccinations, BVC visits, where to buy those things you stick on chair legs to protect the floor…I felt a bit helpless and pretty isolated, and I didn’t really like feeling that way.

I slowly figured it all out and it was a huge help having both a Swedish husband and English as my mother tongue, but it was still more of an adjustment than I had expected.

Now, four years later, I feel settled, and although nobody is going to mistake my Swedish as native, I speak it pretty well. My children are older and are in school and pre-school, and I have a much better grasp of how stuff works.

Oh, and those chair protector things? Try your local supermarket.

Becoming a doula

I have also realised my dream of becoming a doula and supporting Swedish, international, and mixed families in their birth journeys.

Growing and birthing a whole new person is really a big enough task without having to do it in a new country.

For someone moving to Sweden, having to navigate, well, everything, as well as a completely different maternity system is a huge challenge.

There can be so many barriers, the language is an obvious one, but others exist too. Maybe you come from a country where pregnancy and birth are under the care of doctors rather than midwives, where you receive scans and tests at each prenatal visit or where open conversations with your care provider are not really a thing.

Or perhaps the Swedish system is fairly similar to what you are used to, but it’s the little differences that are throwing you off.

A doula relieves some of the emotional and informational load

More and more people are becoming aware of how helpful it can be to have the support of a doula during pregnancy, birth, and into the postpartum.

From the moment you find a doula you really click with (and that’s key) they will be there to support you. They will help you find evidence-based information to help you make decisions, they’ll be with you during labour and birth to help with physical support, and provide comfort measures and ideas on various positions. But most importantly, they will be there for YOU.

Your doula is someone you can turn to when things feel overwhelming.

They are someone to talk with openly who will not judge or tell you what to do.

Someone who will listen to everything you have to say and ensure you know that anything you are feeling is valid and that it’s ok.

A doula is there to create and hold a safe space for you throughout your pregnancy, birth, and beyond.

A doula will not tell you what to do

It’s good to note that a doula is not someone who plays any kind of medical role.

She is not there to push you towards one kind of birth or another and, unfortunately, she cannot guarantee you your perfect birthing experience.

What she can do is to work with you prenatally so that you are as prepared, informationally, and emotionally as possible for any situation that might arise.

Birth, as we know, is an organic process and although you can read all the books and do all the things, you cannot have complete control over exactly how things will go down on the big day.

Your doula will advocate for you

Ok, I cannot emphasize this next part enough:

In terms of seeing your birth experience as positive, playing an active role in it rather than letting your birth happen to you, seems to be even more important than whether or not your birth went exactly to plan.

Being prepared that you can continue to be the driver of your own experience and have the final say in any decisions that need to be made.

I truly believe that this kind of support can be incredibly beneficial for everyone. However, for someone expecting a baby in a foreign country? It’s invaluable.

Your doula can help you to navigate the local maternity system and help you to know what to expect.

They can work with you to create questions for your midwife so that you have all the information you need to feel confident and positive.

Outside of your prenatal meetings, they will be available over the phone, SMS, email or messenger, as often you need them.

Birth sherpas

A conversation with your doula can be incredibly helpful as she (or one of her fellow doulas!) will have had experience in all of the local hospitals and can help you to feel out which one will best fit you and the birth experience you want.

Perhaps you are just overwhelmed with the whole thing, and either don’t yet have close friends to turn to or prefer to talk to someone who will listen without judgment or agenda.

I’ve heard doulas referred to as sherpas, and I can see why. Doulas act as a guide through the tricky terrain of birth.

However, I believe that you should be leading the way on your own birth journey and that your doula should walk alongside you, offering ideas, options, resources, and support but, ultimately, following your lead.

I have also heard doulas called birth fairies and while that’s lovely, a doula is not there to wave a magic wand and grant you the wish of your perfect birth. She can’t.

What she can do is be a steady presence throughout your journey and support you in navigating various interventions to emotional overwhelm and everything in between. 

Talk with a doula

If you would like to learn more about working with a doula, please feel free to explore my website,, or drop me an email to

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How a Silly Conversation Turned into a Children’s Book Wed, 17 Apr 2019 09:14:13 +0000 It was a dark and stormy Halloween night…actually, it was. October in Sweden is really dark, and it wasn’t nighttime per se, but rather 3 pm which is quite night-like in terms of daylight. The kids and I were at the dentist’s office for my daughter’s wellness check-up. She opened her mouth wide, and we […]

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It was a dark and stormy Halloween night…actually, it was.

October in Sweden is really dark, and it wasn’t nighttime per se, but rather 3 pm which is quite night-like in terms of daylight.

The kids and I were at the dentist’s office for my daughter’s wellness check-up. She opened her mouth wide, and we discovered she had one cavity.

Given that it was Halloween and the kids were about to eat more candy than usual, we had a brief discussion about sweets and tooth brushing while on our way to the car.

As we walked through the parking lot, my son asked me, “Why does everything spooky on Halloween happen ‘when the clock strikes twelve?’”

I don’t know where this thought came from—my kids usually throw bizarre questions and ideas at me—but this one started a conversation between us.

“I don’t know. Maybe something happens every hour on Halloween. When the clock strikes one, mummies come undone…” I said in a spooky voice.

“Stop it, Mama, you’re scaring me!”

“That’s the idea, isn’t it?” I laughed.

I’ve lost so many good ideas by thinking that I’d remember them later only to have no recollection of what we talked about.

“When the clock strikes two, witches stir their brew.”
“When the clock strikes three…what happens at three-o’-clock?”
“Goblins need to pee!” he chimed in, giggling maniacally.

And so it went, on and on until we had a few rhymes.

The kids climbed into the car, and it dawned on me that I needed to write these rhymes down before they disappeared and became a hazy memory of “that fun conversation we had on Halloween.”

I’ve lost so many good ideas by thinking that I’d remember them later only to have no recollection of what we talked about.

The kids buckled in, and it was after 10 minutes of frantic scribbling in my notebook later that I remembered they were back there.

“Can we go home now?”

“Why haven’t we left yet?”

The backseat was getting complainy.

“Because Mama’s busy writing something. Hang on one more minute, I promise.”

It was at least five more minutes before I started the car and drove home.

I discovered I had a problem.

Nothing rhymed with twelve.

Also, seven and eleven were tricky. I left those rhymes as blank spaces and vowed to revisit them later.

Being the obsessed-with-a-new-idea type person, I had to validate my idea and see if it was any good.

I created some Instagrammable images with clip art, added the text, and published them on my account.

It was Halloween evening…I didn’t have much time left in the day to be timely.

The hearts and comments started to pour in.

“So fun!”
“Haha, love the goblins.”

The initial reader feedback was good enough for me to take it to the next level.

I shared the images in a children’s book writer’s Facebook group and asked for more feedback—this time from my peers.

“I think you just wrote your first board book,” came some encouragement from Sheri Wall, “it’s really fun!”

It was vital for me to test the quality of the story before moving to the illustration phase. Illustrations can hide a bad story well—they are really good at that.

I wanted my contribution—the nucleus, the purpose of the story—to be solid before hiring an illustrator.

Hiring an Editor

I hired an editor who told me that my meter was a mess. What meter did I even want anyway?

My story was a jumbled mix of iambic trimeter, tetrameter, and pentameter. Did I want anapestic?

I had no idea what Tamara was talking about, and, feeling like a newbie to the core, I set off to Google and YouTube different types of meter.

After a lot of thinking and reflection, I settled on iambic trimeter. That had the best rhythm and was the simplest for the age range.

Also, most of my verses were already in iambic trimeter, so I wanted to keep it easy.

My next two books can expand in length and complexity, but the beauty of this story was its simplicity. Iambic trimeter felt right.

Now, to make it more than just a cute story.

What I’ve learned while marketing my nonfiction books, is that it’s best to think through every angle before finalizing anything. 

My books dealt with time, my son was struggling with understanding the concept of time in first grade, and it was a perfect fit.

My friend, Megan actually suggested adding a large clock face to every page. Perfect!

The book would have a large clock on one side of the page opposite cute illustrations. The story could hold water on its own, but now I had a teachable aspect of the book. 

Parents and teachers would appreciate it for more than just a cute story—kids would learn something new while reading it.

“Am I crazy? Does this work?” I sent an advanced copy of my book to a few teachers.

“Oh, it definitely works! I was surprised at how much my kids didn’t know about time until we started the questions at the end of the book. We had a good class discussion about the differences between morning, afternoon, and evening. I’ll be reading this to my class during the Halloween season.”

“I can’t wait to buy this book to help me with my teaching!” said one ESL teacher.


Hop on your broomstick before this witch flies away to work on other projects.

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